Marriage is one of the biggest investment in your life. You will invest your time into someone. Unlike money, you cannot earn back the time you lose. Smart women know that they need to invest their lives wisely.
5 Reasons Why I Will Marry Money
1. There is nothing wrong about that
I grew up as an élite in Vietnam. My father is a financial and real estate investor. Anyone he introduces to me would be in the same industry and most likely they all have money…a lot of money. Why would I marry someone without money when I can marry one with money? It’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one. When two people come from the same background, it is so much easier for them to relate to the other. There are many amazing men out there but it is easier to find someone who is in my circles already.
It is ok for men to marry pretty women, but people always judge when women marry wealthy men. Why don’t they think she marries into wealth because she deserves it? Marriage is a business. If both parties are happy, there should not be a problem. Some marriage will last, some won’t. Smart women control their lives, they don’t let other people do it. They do what is the best for them, and a lot of time marry money is one of them.
2.The type of men that I love would always be wealthy.
I am used to be around super successful and powerful men.I don’t feel safe around men without a brain and clear vision. I know really well how the roller coaster of life looks like. I am not ready to share my life with someone who I don’t feel secure with. All my life I expect to marry an ambitious intelligent man who is willing to take risk because I feel safe around them. In life usually those men are very successful. Success goes together with wealth and power. Is it wrong to marry a person I love? I don’t think so.
Smart women usually want to share their lives with smart men. Smart men dream big and take big action. They always fight to get what they want. At the end they usually get rewarded with a successful career.
3. Poor Men are more dangerous.
Who is more dangerous: a man with everything or the man with nothing? They are both dangerous. However a wealthy men has more ties. Anything he does will affect his personal brand/reputation,wealth, power, and social status. He has more responsibilities , anything he does might affect many people’s lives. A poor man has nothing to lose. NOTHING.
My future husband would less likely to leave his family because his stocks are going down if there is a scandal. A happy family usually looks better for business. He will have to pay great price for any mistake he makes.
If my future husband has no money, I have no idea what he would do. Of course there are always some exception. Most of the time, it is true.
Smart women usually go for a more secure option. There are investments you need to take risk, marriage is not one of them. Wealthy men are more stable than ones with nothing
4 . I want a stable life for my children.
My family went bankrupt when I was a kid. We had everyone including family turned against us. It was hard. I want a more secure life for my children because I don’t want they to experience what I had. What if I get very sick and I can provide them the best life? Their father will. What if I want to stay home and homeschool my children? My family will be able to afford that because my husband will be able to provide us a decent life without me working. There is nothing wrong about wanting to provide your kids the best life. Of course money does not warranty happiness it but it makes life easier.
Smart women think about other people not just themselves. Their marriage would have impact on many people, they have to invest their live wisely.
5. I want my marriage to last.
My mother always told me the formula for true love is
True Love = Looks + Health + Wealth + Power + Status + Chemistry
When you love someone for all the things above, the relationship is stronger and more likely to last. It is almost impossible for everything to be gone all at the same time. Wealth is very important in any relationship. The leading cause of divorce is finance. When we have financial problem, we are more likely to fight with our spouse.
I don’t know any investor who would invest in a company and hope it will go bankrupt. It is the same rule in the business of heart. When I invest my life into a marriage, I want it to work out. I don’t like divorce, it is messy. It is not very PR friendly at all. A divorce can have negative impact on business and family’s reputation. I don’t think I like the high price I might have to pay for a divorce. I would prefer to marry a financial stable guy, my marriage will more likely to last.
Smart women think more about the long run than short turn. Marriage is a long-term investment. Most people don’t think about divorce when they get marriage. Smart women would be more likely to marry a man who share the same financial mind-set as her. If she does not depend on any man, no man should depend on her.
But There Is A Condition
Smart woman only marry men who can make money, not the one who has money.
I know life is like a roller coaster. There are up and down times. I have experience both and I know it is not easy. I am expecting to share both times with my future husband. People turned their back against us when my family lost everything. I wouldn’t do that to anyone.
If I marry a man who was born into money, there is the chance he has no clue how to make money. It is not likely I would marry someone like that because I don’t like them. But if it happens, my life will be miserable when we lose everything. He wouldn’t know how to stand back up. I want to become somebody’s wife, I did not sign up for a babysitting job. I don’t respect people who only know how to spend money especially not their money.
If I marry a man who knows how to make money, no matter what happens he will find a way to back to the top. I don’t mind sharing hard times with him, because I know it is only temporary.
Smart women don’t go after what they can see because it can be just an allusion, they go after the brain. It is easy to lose wealth, power and status; it is harder for a great man to lose his millionaire mind. Smart women marry men with future. He might not be rich now but the money will come. Marriage is a long-term investment, and smart women know it.
Note To Gold Digger
Darling I just defended you but it does not mean it is ok for you to go after someone just for the money.
You should marry money because you deserve it, not because you want it.
1. Wealthy men are smart.
Usually wealthy men get to the position where they are, most of them know how to read people. They can easily tell if you are going after their money. They know really well what you are thinking. If you don’t deserve to be their wives, they will dump you like last season booties. Of course you can move from one man to another, but how long can you do that? It is not a stable life. And if you think you can get a lot of money from a divorce. There is something called a prenuptial agreement. Darling you will leave your husband without a penny like when you marries him.
2. Wealth does not last.
Nothing lasts, including wealth. It is easy to live when you have a lot of money. But it is not easy when you lose everything. How do I know? I already experienced it. It is not easy to end any relationship. When your husband cannot afford buying you another Birkin or the newest Ferrari, are you going to leave him? If you do, I am sure your gold digger reputation will spread really quick. I am not sure how many serious men will want to marry you.
If you just want to marry for money, forget it. It is a lot of work and high risk. It is better to build your own legacy because you can control it.
3. We are strong independent women, we don’t need men.
I believe what is not mine will never be mine. I don’t like to depend on anyone because I know I cannot control it. Why would you? If you have no control of your life, you are in serious trouble darling. If you are not happy without a man, you wouldn’t be happy with one. Happiness comes from within.
Wake up my love, life is only a fairy tale is hard work is your fairy godmother. If you want to marry money, try to become millionaire-wife-material. That is the only way. And most successful men I know like an independent woman because they know if anything happens, their love will be alright. Smart men want to find a women who will stay during bad time not the one who just wants them for their money. Everybody loves them when the money is there.
When you have money, your friends know who you are. When you have no money, you know who your friends are.
Gold digger is only mistress material not wife. Men will play with you and move on to the hotter and newer toy. At the end of the day, smart men always come back home to their wives.
Be a platinum digger, go for the brain not just the money. You are a smart woman and I know you deserve better and you should too.
A lot of people make a big deal when they see a woman marry money. I don’t believe it is bad at all. I know my value and what I deserve. At the end of the day, I don’t forget money is in the formula of true love.
It is your turn: Would you marry money?
photo credit: nattu
cammipham
@leaderswest something is wrong i didnt publish it, i still have it as draft on my screen thanks
leaderswest
@cammipham crud! Trying to delete tweet and it won’t let me! Argh !
cammipham
@leaderswest its ok wp was acting i guess…no idea how it went public cuz my post is still draft
cammipham
@leaderswest ppl would think im a gold digger if they only read the first half….they need to read the 2nd…w condition part to understand
leaderswest
@cammipham I found it right after I tweeted and deleted. Sorry about that….
arodomus
@cammipham I’m probably gonna have something to say by the time I finish reading this post! Lol.
arodomus
@cammipham I grew up non-elite in the streets of the south Bronx and fought out.. Lol..
cammipham
@arodomus lol it does not matter if you want to be rich you have to hang out w the rich
arodomus
@cammipham I understand your points. Most are valid. Yet, some of it doesn’t sit well with me. Probably cause I fought hard for mine.
arodomus
@cammipham Some were nice, and good people. Some are full of crap elitist that look down on others. I’ve always disliked those types.
cammipham
@arodomus that is new money, old money usually are nicer and dont act like they are the king because they have money
arodomus
@cammipham trust fund babies. people who never earned a penny in their life. Zero respect for people like that. Yes they have more than me -
arodomus
@cammipham – but they didn’t earn jack squat in life. Where the little bit that I have, I made it out of nothing. Through hard work &effort!
cammipham
@arodomus those one are horrible….especially if they came from new money. they parents made money too easily they dont know the value
cammipham
@arodomus selfmade is always the best you have to work hard to earn it
arodomus
@cammipham mind you, I’m not saying you are one of them. But I’d never, ever deal with a gold digger myself. And I’ve met a few that try.
cammipham
@arodomus lol i meet them chat with them all the time…not the best ppl
arodomus
@cammipham I met one. I told him to his face that he was a d*ck. And how he’s lucky his parents gave him money. Otherwise he’d be nothing.
arodomus
@cammipham I met another one, who was super rich, but you’d never know. He was humble, nice, and never once spoke about it. Good guy.
cammipham
@arodomus i know many ppl like that i dont like to be around them
cammipham
@arodomus same here i wrote a post about it…a very quite humble guy who looks so normal but he was a real estate tycoon
arodomus
@arodomus I’ve always disliked those that came from good life and look down on others that are not from that life. “Rich privileged kids”.
LoudleeTurnItUp
@cammipham Bold article miss! I actually read it twice & then read the comments…Think I agree with some points and not with others (contd)
cammipham
@LoudleeTurnItUp i expect it :) would love to hear…i write so we can debate more about it not looking for ppl who agree w me
LoudleeTurnItUp
@cammipham (cont) but point three doesn’t sit well with me. Being married to a wealthy partner doesn’t make them less likely to stray, only-
cammipham
@LoudleeTurnItUp my point is there are things for me to hold on too…just feel more secure
cammipham
@LoudleeTurnItUp if a man has nothing…no reputation, no status, no money he can do anything. it is hard for me to read him
LoudleeTurnItUp
@cammipham (cont) better at hiding their indiscretions
greenleafwood
@cammipham As someone going through a separation & who is being held financial hostage, you have completely missed the boat on marriage.
cammipham
@greenleafwood explain
greenleafwood
@cammipham Marriage is about love, trust and committment. Without those, no marriage will last. Money MIGHT help, but not without the others
cammipham
@greenleafwood why do you think a marriage that has a strong financial wont have those? most likely it has a much stronger foundation
cammipham
@greenleafwood people know exactly what they are signing up for, they know what they need to bring to the table. everything is clear
cammipham
@greenleafwood more trust and commitment. usually chemistry always in the mix because the 2 ppl are very alike
greenleafwood
@cammipham I never said those couldn’t be present along with money, just that they are FAR MORE important than it.
cammipham
@greenleafwood when your kids are staving….i am not sure if you can feed them w love. sometime you need to be practical
cammipham
@greenleafwood its nice to have but not a must
greenleafwood
@cammipham That is without doubt the most bullsh*t argument I have ever heard. We clearly have a dif sense of right & wrong. Good…
greenleafwood
@cammipham …luck to you on your search for happiness.
cammipham
@greenleafwood its practical. every marriage is a business and you are investing your life into it. you need to pick the right partner
CanIndianSteve
@cammipham but then why get married at all, the purpose of marriage is love, if you just want financial support be commonlaw
greenleafwood
@cammipham I give up.
cammipham
@CanIndianSteve if you read my post its not about finanicial support its more about sharing the same mindset and partnership
cammipham
@CanIndianSteve you dont want to be w ppl who are not financial independent. if you share the journey you want someone who will be there
greenleafwood
@cammipham Money may affect some people’s decisions on whether to stay or go, but if that’s what is happening, the heart has already left…
RulerOfSTK
@greenleafwood @cammipham #Truth Couldn’t have said it better Steve. :)
cammipham
@greenleafwood i dont think i would marry a man who doesn’t have a good sense of finance. im good on my own i am not signing up to babysit
greenleafwood
@cammipham …and that is not a lesson I will teach my children.
greenleafwood
@cammipham As for it being “ok” for men to marry young hotties… No, it’s not unless the love, trust and commitment are there.
cammipham
@greenleafwood marriage is not just about feeling its a partnership. you dont marry someone who dont share the same value even you love them
cammipham
@greenleafwood it does not work that way. there are ppl i love but i cant stand. that is not a healthy relationship
greenleafwood
@cammipham But it is not a business partnership as you have claimed. Marrying for money speaks to ones own insecurities & mistrust…
greenleafwood
@cammipham …and that is no way to begin a marriage. If I married & money was a reason, no how big or small, I’d feel like a whore.
cammipham
@greenleafwood why that is the case if both parties can bring something to a table and form a stronger team there is nothing wrong about it
cammipham
@greenleafwood because you don’t think you deserve it…that is the problem. if you cannot bring enough value to the table that is the case
jasondyk
@cammipham I think you missed the boat on love here… love does not equal money
cammipham
@jasondyk it is part of a fomula ….if you only marry for love, when all the love fades does that mean your marriage will end too?
jasondyk
@cammipham if the love fades that means your were never working on it to begin with…love needs upkeep
cammipham
@jasondyk not really any relationship has up and down time its normal….it doesnt mean it is not mean to be….its life
cammipham
@jasondyk most of the time it doesn’t last long. need to have a stable foundation w mutual interests, goal
jasondyk
@cammipham and a wise man once said, “mo money mo problems” :-)
twitterpatedss7
Whoa. Good, scary, a little true, and a lot smart. Nice post..
cammipham
@twitterpatedss7 thanks ppl usually think people who choose to marry wealthy is bad…but to be honest they just prefer to find men who share the same mindset when it come to finance. When you take finance seriously you don’t want to deal with people who don’t. Marriage is a partnership, you need to be on the same page on all major thing to move forward together. We shouldn’t depend on men but we shouldn’t be with men who might depend on us
mikelking
@cammipham I’ve reposted it…
AngelaMay
Cammi – I love your conviction around this. Not many women would have the guts to be so outright. I admire you!
I particularly resonated with what you said around “poor men are more dangerous” I haven’t thought of it that way, but looking back at my life you are so right! They are definitely a lot more reckless with less to lose in terms of money, reputation, etc. Love your posts. Angela
cammipham
@AngelaMay I am glad you like it dear. It was not easy to write this post. I have had it as a draft in the last few months. It is a very controversial topic. Marriage is like a business, you should find a partner who makes you better not worse. It shouldn’t become more complicated than what you already have. Everyone need to be financial dependent. We need to make everything clear from the beginning to avoid disappointment.
TuAnh Nguyen
Money is not everything but money can make a happy married couple……
CamMi Pham
TuAnh Nguyen money can buy chanel and make u happy lol…btw you are better call the store they will tell u if they are going increase the price
TuAnh Nguyen
Just wonder, cuz my friend in vn told me will be increasing in Europe..
DeeDrogorub
@PegFitzpatrick @cammipham Smart Women make their own money!That way they are not subjected to abuse.”
cammipham
@DeeDrogorub the point of the post was smart women are independent and they choose someone who is financial independent too
LezleyDavidson
@pegfitzpatrick The whole tone of that post felt “off” to me. I think it’s a difference in cultural values.
PegFitzpatrick
@LezleyDavidson I am sorry that wasn’t your cup of tea. :)
LezleyDavidson
@pegfitzpatrick Oh, that’s not really important – I guess I tweeted you in the interest of having a discussion about an article you shared.
PegFitzpatrick
@LezleyDavidson Ah! Gotcha! I married for love and I don’t regret that at all.
LezleyDavidson
@pegfitzpatrick After 8 years working in an all asian community, I’m aware of a fundamental value difference in choosing partners.
TheReal_Dizzy
@cammipham http://t.co/1EykBJCR
imspecialists
Smart Women Marry Money…With A Condition http://t.co/LoYGhda2 via @cammipham <- Loving this!
VictoriaInVerse
@cammipham – I agree w/ur line “Marriage is a business.” Ppl hate when I say that but I’m like HELLO it’s a LEGAL contract. Interesting post
cammipham
@VictoriaInVerse good point i forgot that. It is dangerous when u sign that it can cost u a lot
leelihong
@cammipham I honestly think they has to be a balance between the 2 love and financial stability go hand in hand!! En not only about MONEY!!
cammipham
@leelihong i think more than that, check the formular of love
leelihong
@cammipham True Love = Looks + Health + Wealth + Power + Status + Chemistry! Properly balanced!! All in all it made for a good read!!
cammipham
@leelihong they cant all be gone at the same time => long lost marriage
cammipham
@leelihong i meant long last
n_hue
@cammipham Well said. However, a marriage business shouldn’t be a priority. There is much more to learn from the opposites.
n_hue
@cammipham Well said. However, a marriage business search shouldn’t be a priority in life.Happiness is attainable via settled differences.
cammipham
@n_hue of course you have to find the right balance
cammipham
@hilaryflint i am glad you like it
mz88bby
@cammipham so tru
richellerockstarr
@cammipham I had to comment after reading this and am glad I’m not the only one who thinks this way ! Especially the part when you said that any guy can spend money, but not every guy knows how to make money, I really agree with that part. There’s a big difference between having a lot of money and only knowing how to spend it and actually making money and investing it. Thanks for the good advice, especially your note to gold diggers! I am not a gold digger, I’m a platinum digger :-) –
I agree with your view point and everything you wrote!
Keep up the good work and good job !
cammipham
@richellerockstarr I am glad you like it. I know how it is feel when you lost everything. Been there done that. It would be very hard without hope. When nobody wants to talk to you, when you have no money, no power no fame NOTHING. I want to share my life with someone who will be able to handle that.
hkj201
@cammipham Cammi, understand, but sad…
cammipham
@hkj201 really i dont think its wrong, just aiming for the most stable partner…
hkj201
@cammipham It is not wrong. But it is so sad when brain collides with heart.
hkj201
@cammipham what if the person you love so much is not stable financially?
cammipham
@hkj201 ppl who doesnt care about their finance will drag u down w them…and i dont think u will be happy when u r paying someone else debt
aquarianbath
@cammipham I liked your blog post. :)
cammipham
@aquarianbath i am glad you do
Ayoss
This post is so well-written, it explains EVERY aspect of the idea of smart women marrying money (reasons, context, advices) and I agree with your point of view. Like someone said earlier, not every woman would feel confident writing about such a (labeled as) touchy subject.
I’ll remember those 2 lines: “it is harder for a great man to lose his millionaire mind” (brilliant comparison) & “ If you want to marry money, try to become a millionaire-wife-material” (it says it all).
Thank you for that post!
cammipham
@Ayoss most women would be scared to think about the idea because our society teaches us money and love don’t mix. It is ok to think about finance in a relationship because at the end of the day everything will come down to money. You cannot love anyone when you are starving. Maybe it is less important when you are dating. But if you are going to get married, it is a legal contract. You need to make sure everything will be alright. It is easy to get in but very hard to get out. It usually takes months.
PavelNovel
@cammipham very interesting. All your points are very well laid out and your argument is clear. I find it impossible to disagree.
PavelNovel
@cammipham my ONLY counterpoint would be, what about entrepreneurs who are trying to make a diff in the world. Why would they be unworthy?
cammipham
@PavelNovel my point is “marry money” = marry a man with the right mindset who understand finance
PavelNovel
@cammipham How about if someone is passionate in ending systemized sexism, for example, & not making money? Are they desirable
cammipham
@PavelNovel life is a roller coaster. there are up and down. as long as he has the right mindset she will be ok with him
PavelNovel
@cammipham I definitely agree. Mindset, ambition, and drive should all be important factors in relationships
cammipham
@MonaShark how are you mona long time no chat….i beleive we still have an overdue date :P
janicedickson
@cammipham Love this post!!
cammipham
@janicedickson :) I am glad you like it
Atip4
@cammipham I don’t know about this one
cammipham
@Atip4 you might need to read it
Atip4
@cammipham I thought I did … Marriage is a business? Oh well, different points of view
cammipham
@Atip4 of course everything is a business if you want it to last…everything should be very clear no confusion
Atip4
@cammipham that thinking is way there is so much cheating and divorce .. Sorry, we can agree to disagree on this one. Good luck with yourway
cammipham
@Atip4 from what i have seen those actually last longer because ppl know exactly what to expect
Atip4
@cammipham sorry, I don’t agree that is a recipe for a happy marriage. But if it works for you ….. Good luck with it
Atip4
@cammipham while I agree you can choose not to get involved with someone based on their background (more traits than just money) cont
Atip4
@cammipham you cannot make it work unless there is a true commitment to and like of the person (regardless of money)
cammipham
@Atip4 finance is one of the biggest conflict…if you dont agree on it….it wont last
Atip4
@cammipham it won’t last because there was never love and a best friend relationship … Money was the excuse, not the cause!
Atip4
@cammipham and you don’t have to agree, just come to a livable middle ground. Obviously, like everything else, if you can’t ..cont
Atip4
@cammipham find an agreeable middle ground, it won’t work. Money is just another personal habit that has to be in sync
Atip4
@cammipham sorry, got me started on that one … Haha
cammipham
@Atip4 if you dont agree on finance, everything ties w it….don’t see how it going to work out
cammipham
@Atip4 who say its not possible….love and money can mix
cammipham
@Atip4 when you have a clear plan if love fades…you still have a reason to be together…if not good luck
Atip4
@cammipham well, I disagree with you viewpoint on this , hence my original tweet. :)
loveralced5
@Atip4 http://t.co/AbvGFrIw
tropixblue
@cammipham Spousal choice advice for RICH MEN please? Guys you got to read this! http://t.co/Vxbm6mHy
cammipham
@tropixblue lol want me to write one? not that hard
TalesOfSound
@cammipham And smart men avoid getting married :-) I hope my wife is not reading this!! Yours faithfully a non-smart man who loves his wife!
cammipham
@TalesOfSound LOL now i know i can blackmail you
TalesOfSound
@cammipham I find blackmail is only affective with people who have money!
TalesOfSound
@TalesOfSound @cammipham I did say I was married.Her money is her money,my money is her money aswell.I still dont understand how it works.
collarnuvgvb0
@TalesOfSound http://t.co/7u3eLcXY
cammipham
@TalesOfSound haha
cammipham
@DABANGA1 @Eclettica :) i just cant be happy starving and trying to pay someone’s else debt
Eclettica
@cammipham @DABANGA1 No one can :) it’s unrealistic, one can’t be happy on love & love alone, it neither fills the tummy nor pays the bills.
DABANGA1
@Eclettica @cammipham @sadiaseymour luv this convo 4 of 5 go for $ and that’s great because we need great shoes :https://t.co/g9lKo5Cx
DABANGA1
@Eclettica @cammipham @sadiaseymour great convo 4 of 5 go for $ how else r we going 2 buy great shoes lol https://t.co/3WnqcsJG
sadiaseymour
@DABANGA1 Asolutely! #Lovemyfashionfriends
Eclettica
@DABANGA1 @cammipham @sadiaseymour Can’t. Taken over master closet & spare one upstairs, man’s threatening divorce if I buy more. Le sigh.
DABANGA1
@Eclettica @cammipham @sadiaseymour Mayb @cammipham has an xtra shoe closet lol
cammipham
@DABANGA1 @Eclettica @sadiaseymour I wish i dont but i have like a box in garage
cammipham
@Eclettica @DABANGA1 @sadiaseymour LOL
sadiaseymour
@DABANGA1 @Eclettica @cammipham I’m in a bstone,no closets. I’d give my right arm for a walk-in. I am a #FashionStylist w/o a closet. :(
Eclettica
@sadiaseymour @DABANGA1 @cammipham Oy. I feel for you. HUGS.
DABANGA1
@sadiaseymour @Eclettica @cammipham Feel ur pain, found this idea for closetless ppl : )https://t.co/TLqf5Bdo
Eclettica
@DABANGA1 @sadiaseymour @cammipham Seems nifty as a boutique showcase thingy but not quite my scene :)
DABANGA1
@Eclettica @DABANGA1 @sadiaseymour @cammipham its for Sadia. Who has no closet space : )
sadiaseymour
@DABANGA1 @Eclettica @cammipham I’d be very angry to see my clothes that way! I’m just gonna take over a room & sqaut! Lol!
cammipham
@tamuir always they are smart enough to know what is more important
For Him
This is very true!
cammipham
@For Him glad you like it my dear
meowpaws
This whole post is full of contradictions :/
jaltucher
What a great article. I love how you attack it from every angle and squash the critics before they come out. Good stuff.
cammipham
@jaltucher thank you dear