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Price of A Smile

Most of you know me as the bubbly happy hugaholic Twitter girl with a great smile. Have you wonder what is the story behind that smile and why I am always so positive.

Third World to North America

I was born in a third world country that most of you known from a famous war in twentieth century, Vietnam.  Many years ago my family was very influential and wealthy. During the war, a lot of our properties were seized or some would call it ‘long term rented’.  However I was lucky because both of my parents were great entrepreneurs. They built successful businesses and were able to provide me a good life. When millions kids did not have food to eat or clothes to wear, I had a maid at home, imported food and clothes, which at the time in Vietnam were very rare and expensive. I went to the best school in the city with all the other elite kids. Everybody loved and respected us. Life was good until the day my father got a lawsuit. A year later, the jugde proved that my father was innocent and had nothing to do with the financial scam. It was a mistake, a mistake that costed us a successful business and a happy family. But the saddest part of that story was not losing money nor power but friends. People who used to come to my family to ask for help would not even respond our calls anymore.  My mom who spent her 20s in Europe decided it was time to go back to the Western world. We left with empty hands hoping to rebuild our lives in Canada.

 ”If you love her, send her to New York, for there it is heaven; if you hate her, send her to New York, for there it is hell.”

~ Beijinger In New York

In Vietnam, everyone thinks North America is heaven, but sadly in reality its the opposite. Starting a life in a new country is hard, but starting a new life with nothing is much harder. I was a spoiled princess who grew up with house maid and had never had to touch a single thing in my life. Instead of a brand new 5 story house with library full of books and game room, we lived in a 150 square feet room in a hundred years old house. I had to learn to take care of myself and help my mother raise my little sister. It was somewhat  like Sara Crewe’s life in Little Princess, a ‘princess’ turn  a poor girl overnight.

I went to school where I could not understand a word. I was no longer the teacher’s pet who knows all the answers.  None of the kids want to have anything to do with me, and later on I found out they were making fun of me. I did not want to bother my mom because she has gotten enough problems on her plate. I thought this cold land was better than my home, but nobody really wanted me. Every lunch time I would walk to an empty park near my school, read my favourite poem and compare my life to Daiyu in The Dream of the Red Chamber, one of China’s four great novels about the  rise and decay of an influential Chinese family in the Qing Dynasty.

 

None has divined the day when I shall die;

Men laugh at my folly in burying fallen flowers,

But who will bury me when dead I lie?

See, when spring draws to a close and flowers fall,

This is the season when beauty must ebb and fade;

The day that spring takes wing and beauty fades

Who will care for the fallen blossom or dead maid?

~ Lin Daiyu

 

On a cold day  in middle of February , I was on my way to class, a stranger looked at me and smiled. It was the first time I saw someone smiling at me in a long long time. It was much sweeter than many sugar coated words that I have heard all my life, it made me believe that life will get better. I never forget that lady and the smile that changed my life.

From that day on, I promised to myself I would always smile and treat everyone like my family. Because a simple smile costs me nothing but can mean the world to someone.

 

Not Another Social Media Blog

When I started this blog, I want to write about something that reflects myself the most. What would reflect a girl with 55,000 followers on Twitter more than Social Media? A LOT of things.

Social media is just a new communication tool,  like an “IT” shoes which are new and hot. But a newer, nicer and hotter pair will come out in the next season and everybody will forget about the old ones. It is just an accessory that make you look better but can’t ever make you a better person. The last thing would define me is social media. Plus there are millions of other social media blogs out there and we do not need another one.

This blog is about all the lessons I learned from the roller coaster known as life. It is about a story of a little girl from a third world country who believes that she could change the world with her two hands and a brain. It is about believing in  a dream. It is about magic.

Photographer: Lena Dawood

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49 thoughts on “Price of A Smile

    • Tim

      08 May on 2013 at 10:18 pm

      I just read your story. I can truly relate to it personally on multiple levels….

  1. MatthewDana

    08 Oct on 2011 at 3:08 am

    This is very powerful. :-)

    • cammipham

      29 Oct on 2011 at 1:19 pm

      @MatthewDana Thanks Matthew

  2. catsfaith

    29 Oct on 2011 at 2:47 pm

    Because a simple smile costs me nothing but can mean the world to someone.

    Very true words, thank you for sharing with us

    • cammipham

      02 Nov on 2011 at 12:38 pm

      @catsfaith its my pleasure sharing is caring right?

  3. cammipham

    30 Oct on 2011 at 6:06 pm

    @AneDallasOrr Thanks dear I am glad that you enjoy it :)

    • AneDallasOrr

      31 Oct on 2011 at 5:00 am

      @cammipham a refreshing and positive post, thank you! Have a great day :-)

      • cammipham

        31 Oct on 2011 at 9:52 am

        @AneDallasOrr :) you too happy halloween

        • AneDallasOrr

          31 Oct on 2011 at 1:14 pm

          @cammipham thank you!

        • cammipham

          31 Oct on 2011 at 3:46 pm

          @AneDallasOrr :)

  4. cammipham

    30 Oct on 2011 at 6:10 pm

    @catsfaith thanks cung

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  6. TaraMarkus

    01 Nov on 2011 at 7:13 am

    @cammipham Join the Talk of the Town Chat TONIGHT @ 7pmEST – Express yourself in Style! TOPIC: Present with Panache! #ubusensations

  7. cindyblack63

    04 Nov on 2011 at 1:31 pm

    Your honesty is inspiring! No doubt you will change the world with your two hands, brain, and big heart.

    • cammipham

      16 Nov on 2011 at 10:58 pm

      @cindyblack63 if you believe in yourself and your dream nothing is impossible

  8. DorlanCognac

    09 Nov on 2011 at 3:01 pm

    @cammipham Ciao bella:)

  9. judyelee

    16 Nov on 2011 at 9:26 am

    i just read this about cammi. i knew that you had a story, and you told it so well here. keep smiling always!@judyelee

  10. tram4hr

    17 Nov on 2011 at 6:43 am

    Keep smiling=) it’s pretty

    • cammipham

      17 Nov on 2011 at 9:13 am

      @tram4hr thanks of course I will. Thanks for dropping by and dig up my blog dear

  11. jasonwonline20

    20 Nov on 2011 at 1:00 am

    The originals are sweet, lovely, and enchanting stories and I do not intend to ruin that image but the plotlines of those stories twisted would make such good horror films!

    • cammipham

      21 Jun on 2012 at 10:25 am

       @jasonwonline20 lol you want to turn my life into a horror movie? how? I cannot see it

  12. ANTIBASICBITCHZ

    28 Dec on 2011 at 6:15 pm

    @cammipham GO CHECKOUT CHICAGO BREAK OUT ARTIST @OFFICIALPMAC #LOOK@MENOW FREESTYLE http://t.co/KoWov6TS

  13. Tweetixx

    01 Feb on 2012 at 5:14 am

    @cammipham I smile when I have a yummy snake on my plate,,haha,, Nooo I just kidding you. :XD

  14. cammipham

    06 Feb on 2012 at 1:19 pm

    @thecuratedlife how are you dear

    • thecuratedlife

      06 Feb on 2012 at 3:07 pm

      @cammipham sending big hugs!

    • cammipham

      21 Jun on 2012 at 10:26 am

       @black mold removal silly just try, you cannot tell if life is sweet or not without trying 

  15. Limechillo

    12 Apr on 2012 at 3:52 pm

    @cammipham wowo I just read your story……. my arms and heart cannot say and neither will my mouth. Blessings.

  16. manjeetkhurana

    12 Apr on 2012 at 3:53 pm

    @cammipham Price of a smile – Invaluable (priceless) by the giver. Invaluable (precious) to the receiver. Some things in life are invaluable

    • CarlosAlvarez37

      12 Apr on 2012 at 4:23 pm

      RT @CASLworkscom Price of A Smile http://t.co/6qfQmFQw via @cammipham @yb2012

      • cammipham

        12 Apr on 2012 at 7:48 pm

        @CarlosAlvarez37 @CASLworkscom @yb2012 thanks for RT

        • SpitToonsSaloon

          12 Apr on 2012 at 7:52 pm

          @cammipham A toast: Here’s 2 vive la différence, with an au revoir 2 the same routine, & a bienvenue 2 something new. (;>))

        • CarlosAlvarez37

          12 Apr on 2012 at 7:53 pm

          @cammipham You are welcome. I am now following you. I invite you to follow back.

  17. globalidadmx

    26 May on 2012 at 4:34 am

    @cammipham Priceless…

  18. cammipham

    07 Jun on 2012 at 10:28 am

    @une_uphi i am glad you enjoy it :)

  19. GWT_Jewelry

    12 Jun on 2012 at 2:16 am

    @cammipham ~I read your story twice and really enjoy it. I SMILE to you!

    • cammipham

      12 Jun on 2012 at 10:12 pm

      @GWT_Jewelry :) i am glad you enjoyed it

  20. cammipham

    19 Jun on 2012 at 6:34 pm

    @LindsayFultz thanks for sharing that story was on the radio last week and today

    • LindsayFultz

      19 Jun on 2012 at 6:46 pm

      @cammipham You have come a long way. Should be very proud of you and your family:)

      • cammipham

        19 Jun on 2012 at 6:55 pm

        @LindsayFultz :) thanks I still have to send you the list of ideas sometime this week

        • LindsayFultz

          19 Jun on 2012 at 9:34 pm

          @cammipham Yes and I have some info/tools as well you might be interested in testing…

        • cammipham

          19 Jun on 2012 at 9:37 pm

          @LindsayFultz i like the sounds of that you know i am an app junkie

  21. AlbertAlbs

    21 Jun on 2012 at 4:41 am

    Smile is priceless and Powerful.  Keep smiling CamMi Pham :) 
    Got this blog post from your Google+ profile introduction. 

    • cammipham

      21 Jun on 2012 at 10:26 am

       @AlbertAlbs :) thanks you remind me I should track clicking rate from G+

  22. Grace Hui

    14 May on 2013 at 1:58 pm

    Absolutely agree on the social media presence being an “IT” thing. I mean it’s a part of our lives but so many of us has let “IT” take over our lives. Being concerned with the number of followers… rather than focusing it back on our true selves. Great post!

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